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| Sharon Mundia Image: www.thisisess.com |
I can
bet that I am not the only one who hadn’t heard about Sharon Mundia also known
as @ThisIsEss in the twitter space, a renowned fashion blogger, apparently. She took the internet by storm a couple of
days ago when she broke the news of her engagement to the world. @ThisIsEss is
a sight to behold but then again it depends on your scale of beauty.
Anyways,
you might be wondering why it caused a fuss resulting in the trend
#PoleKwaMwirigi. Of course, she broke the heart of Team Mafisi but not so much
like a lad named Mwarigi who had an overwhelming crush on her. @ThisIsEss
decided to tell one Mwarigi that they can still be friends. Ha!
Dear
ladies, a word of advice: don’t tell that man who is after your loving heart that
you can be friends when you have declined to approve his bid for whatever
reason. A man knows what is best for
him. When he decides to pursue you, he has objectives. If he only wants to be
your friend, he will do just that. If he wants you guys to be lovers then that
will be the primary objective and maybe, just maybe, the secondary objective is
tipping the cookie jar. Nobody wants to lose it all. Heey!
Telling
somebody who is love with you but cannot get you whatsoever to be still your
friend is ill advised. I know you might think that you are being thoughtful and
that you are giving at least something, hand in friendship, instead of nothing
at all. In saying that, you are just hurting him more and the impression he
gets is that he’s only good enough for just being a friend. Its either he has
you (fully) or not.
There
are those who accept rejection friendship whole heartedly. That who accepts to
be your friend even after turning down his advances could mean three things:
One, he is still hoping to win you by hanging around. What he doesn’t realize
is that he is sealing his fate in the dreaded friend zone. Secondly, he was not
serious in his bid and probably he wanted only sleep with you. That and nothing
more. He will therefore stay behind still working to tip the cookie jar. Lastly,
he could be in denial and knowing that he can still talk to you freely makes
him feel better.
Dear
ladies, now you. Don’t tell that chap that you can still be friends. You are
not helping the situation.
